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Sober is the New Black in 2010!

Posted in Current Events with tags , , , , , , , , , , , on December 31, 2009 by corecompany

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2009 END OF YEAR RANT.

I am sad to report that I still have a job. I am still the CEO of the core company and we still do what we do: intervene, manage crisis, consult on treatment options, manage a sober living, advocate for policy reform, produce a TV show. This is not really an advertisement to the four of you who read this, it’s a long way to let you know that addiction is alive and well and continuing to create havoc in communities, families, schools & work environments. With the Holidays in full swing and winding down, how did substance misuse impact you? Family fights? Car crashes? Overdose? Someday, I will teach history and coach baseball. I would like to think that will happen because my business is obsolete, more than likely, it will happen because I need a change. Fear not, I’m not going anywhere for a while.
THE HOT LIST:

1)   Michael Jackson: What’s to say? I hope bubbles is OK and isn’t stuffing his feelings with too many bananas. The man walked around with a chimp.

2)   DJ AM. Sad, sad, case. A great guy, tried really hard, lost his struggle.

3)   Britney Murphy: “Natural Causes”?  Huh? Well, technically cocoa leaves are natural.

4)   Mexican Blood Bath: More people have been killed in the Mexican border towns in the drug war than in Iraq. Talk about terror and right here. Where is the discourse on this? C’mon CNN, Fox, etc., lets see this discussed.

5)   Ted Kennedy: One of the Good Old Timers, never found recovery and what a tragic thing that was, what could he have been as a sober guy?

6)   Josh Hamilton: Great example of owning one’s own imperfections and trying to do better. Didn’t make excuses, didn’t blame, didnt minimize, showed that recovery and the people in it are imperfect and that for most is part of the deal.

7)   Diane/Daniel Schuler: Denial kills. Enabling does too.

8)   Dash Snow: A cliché of his own youthful arrogance and ego. Beautifully talented, brilliant young mind lost to the disease.

9)   Gil Kerlikowske: Is he with us? Is he not? Is he a reformer? Is he a cop? Where are you Gil? Great seeing you at the recovery rally, hope to see more of you in our sub-culture

10)  Redmond O’Neal: dismissed as an overindulged Hollywood brat, and lets face it, that is likely accurate. Also a very troubled young guy suffering from the disease and forever guilty at being absent from his mother’s passing.

11)  Chris Kennedy Lawford: Great work for the wretched of the earth. Who is dismissed more than poor people, afflicted with IV addiction and a rotting liver? I’m not sure. Great work coming forward and using lineage for the greater good. Keep it going, brother.

12) Levi Johnston. Addict? I don’t know. Child of addiction? Almost certain. His mother has multiple arrests on drug charges and his father is AWOL, bad idea for a young guy in the spot light and a new father himself to be self-determining. To add to the pain, impossibly stupid, gun-toting moose hunter hates him and enters into pissing match. Really, Governor? I mean resigned Governor. Call me anytime you want to talk about it Levi.

13) Tom Amiano: Someone had to do it. Someone had to say “Hey, let’s decriminalize Marijuana”. Well, lots of people say it but he wrote a bill, wears a suit, and is a legit city politician. Bringing it into honesty.

14) John Odom: Died of an overdose. How sad, where was baseball when this kid was spinning out?

15)  Michael Phelps: Whatever, he smokes weed. So? All I can say is don’t share yours with him. Can you imagine the bong hits that guy could take?

And so, it goes on, the reform, the fight, the tragedy and the redemption. Many, many, happy tales of how recovery and intoxicant free-living works. Maybe my New Year resolution should be to throw some happy tales in the mix.

The Denial and Destruction of Diane Schuler

Posted in Current Events with tags , , , , on August 7, 2009 by corecompany

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Denial Kills! It’s that simple, when it comes to dealing with alcoholics and addicts. I should know, I run a company that deals with all kinds of situations, usually when people are in crisis. Sometimes people come to us when the warning signs are there and our counsel is generally the same ‘do something now before the crisis hits.” Sometimes they do, more often than not, they don’t. It doesn’t always produce a tragic consequence but when it does, there is no satisfaction in being “right”. We have many examples of car accidents, overdoses, all kinds of horror stories that may have been avoided were it not for denial, the denial of the addict themselves but as damaging as that is the denial of the people around them. There is an old story about a woman standing graveside after the death of her son. A friend said, “Did he ever think of going to AA?” and she replies, “Oh, it never got THAT bad”

In his first public statement since the tragic accident, Daniel Schuler seems more vested in telling the world that his wife was not an alcoholic than anything else. He has blamed everything imaginable: some bump on her leg, diabetes,  the boogeyman (not really, but you get the point).  Despite simple toxicology that demonstrated his wife should not have been vertical much less driving, Schuler claims he ‘never saw her drunk”. I don’t believe he never saw her drunk; I do believe he never acknowledged she was drunk, that’s a big difference. At this point I don’t think his psyche will let him believe that  Diane Schuler was anything but a “perfect wife” and it certainly won’t let him believe that his co dependency is culpable in this tragedy as well.  The consequences of her actions have cost others their lives, her family is in denial (although her brother failed to mention her at the funeral for his 3  daughters so he may be open to the theory that she had a problem) and until that veil of secrecy is lifted they will remain secluded and isolated in denial.  The families of the victims in the car she plowed into have no problem seeing the truth and deciphering the toxicology reports clearly – she was drunk and stoned, she choose to get behind the wheel of a car and those actions killed their loved ones.